In just a blink of an eye I went from a family of three to a family of five. Without a moment's notice I went from locs that I'd worn for almost 15 years to a super short cut. Before I knew it I went from battling moments of feeling so underweight to trying desperately to lose "this pooch" that just won't go anywhere and truly struggling with losing this weight. Life is changing..fast. Each day I have to pray for guidance and strength to deal with the changes..most of them are good but a few are tough to accept. So I continue to work on acceptance,patience, compassion, letting go of resentment and fear...and accepting the changes with open arms and a new perspective.....
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| Graduation Day |
My little boy, Yahoshua, graduated from 5th grade yesterday. I was very excited and tearful at the same time. Although it's just him moving from elementary school to middle school it was emotional for me because it signaled change. He really isn't my "little boy" or "my baby" any longer. He is becoming a young man and will start to create his own life experiences and begin maturing in ways I can't imagine. It seems just the other day I was carrying him deep in my womb and singing and talking to him; wondering just what he would look like and who he would be. Now, here he is...growing up and changing right in front of my eyes. Amazing and beautiful at the same time. I'm so proud to be his mother and embrace the many other ceremonies in his life that will signal change.
Yes, it's hard to admit out loud but the truth is I have problems with my attitude.
For some, they demonstrate their attitudes with cruel words or loud arguments. For me, I go inward when I get my attitude. I retreat inwardly and I stew. This is not healthy. It is of vital importance that I speak about the things that bother me even if they may be uncomfortable. I remember my parents saying to me as a child and adolescent that I always had this attitude. Of course I thought that they were wrong and were simply trying to "control me!" Ha! I was even delusional enough to believe that many of my past issues in relationships had to do with "the other person." If he would just "act right" then I wouldn't have to stew silently, give the cold shoulder and respond to the question of what's wrong, with the classic response...nothing.
My immaturity to acknowledge that my attitude isn't always the most pleasant will leave me stunted in my emotional growth. No matter how much I may resist this truth it must be spoken out loud; it must be told in order to start the process of change. What a better mother I will be and an even better daughter, sister and wife! What will go with my attitude will be the arrogance that comes in thinking my emotional state is the only reality,the only way of processing the situation. But when I lose the attitude and with it the arrogance I am free to see the truth and the love in any situation.
Yes, my name is Egypt and I've had more attitudes than I care to admit. But today I start anew, one day at a time until this part of my personality dissolves....
For some, they demonstrate their attitudes with cruel words or loud arguments. For me, I go inward when I get my attitude. I retreat inwardly and I stew. This is not healthy. It is of vital importance that I speak about the things that bother me even if they may be uncomfortable. I remember my parents saying to me as a child and adolescent that I always had this attitude. Of course I thought that they were wrong and were simply trying to "control me!" Ha! I was even delusional enough to believe that many of my past issues in relationships had to do with "the other person." If he would just "act right" then I wouldn't have to stew silently, give the cold shoulder and respond to the question of what's wrong, with the classic response...nothing.
My immaturity to acknowledge that my attitude isn't always the most pleasant will leave me stunted in my emotional growth. No matter how much I may resist this truth it must be spoken out loud; it must be told in order to start the process of change. What a better mother I will be and an even better daughter, sister and wife! What will go with my attitude will be the arrogance that comes in thinking my emotional state is the only reality,the only way of processing the situation. But when I lose the attitude and with it the arrogance I am free to see the truth and the love in any situation.
Yes, my name is Egypt and I've had more attitudes than I care to admit. But today I start anew, one day at a time until this part of my personality dissolves....
Why is it so difficult to make the necessary steps for growth? Why is it so hard? Why can't we remain in the same spot, doing the same things...that is so comfortable. That is warm and familiar. Change is allowing yourself as well as others to be uncomfortable. It's making that decision to experience discomfort. I'd rather continue to pretend to be someone I'm not for the sake of my family so when they're around I'll wear my "family mask" while grinning and bearing it. What's so scary about being yourself? What's so wrong with saying, I'm not going to do it this way any longer. Yes, it may offend others. I may seem rebellious or something but I HAVE TO DO THIS. I have to do something differently. It's a mandatory part of life. If you don't experience change you experience a life that is rotting. A smelly existence. You're stagnating in one spot. Change is not an easy process. It's not an over night experience. It will take time. Not all the time in the world...for time is not promised. So YOU HAVE to make up your mind to act on your change. Do it. Don't procrastinate until you're in a comfortable position...starting today. Not tomorrow. Today..begin the process of change.
‘Nothing we can do can changes the past, but everything we do changes the future.’
— Ashleigh Brilliant
— Ashleigh Brilliant
I saw the most beautiful rainbow last evening. It seemed to appear out of nowhere but it was crystal clear in the sky and gave me goose bumps looking at it. Later that night it rained and stormed terribly and today it's summer skies and beautiful! Life can be like that. Out of nowhere a beautiful surpise like a rainbow and then difficulties and fears like a storm and then easy going and lovely like a spring day. If we/I remember this will it make dealing with issues easier? I would like to believe so but in the moment we tend to get stuck on the stormy skies and thunder. We never think they'll be another pretty day when in fact blue skies will always follow a storm. I want to appreciate wonderful surprises like rainbows and know that my pot of gold may be a lesson well learnt, a delightful experience or a precious memory. Despite any changes remember to enjoy the many moments of your life.
" When we change the way we look at things. The things we look at change."
Look at something that has been on your mind from a different angle today. Take a good hard look at it and examine how you have been studying it. Now look at it with different eyes, in a different light, from a different point of view. Does it still look the same? Does it still hold the same intensity?
Change your perspective...
Look at something that has been on your mind from a different angle today. Take a good hard look at it and examine how you have been studying it. Now look at it with different eyes, in a different light, from a different point of view. Does it still look the same? Does it still hold the same intensity?
Change your perspective...
Change in life is mandatory and like air it's necessary for us to breathe. Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson, M.D. (http://www.whomovedmycheese.com/) is a great little book which gives powerful insight on change.
Life is no straight and easy corridor along
which we travel free and unhampered,
but a maze of passages,
through which we must seek our way,
lost and confused, now and again
checked in a blind alley.
But always, if we have faith,
a door will open for us,
not perhaps one that we ourselves
would ever have thought of,
but one that will ultimately
prove good for us.
~A.J. Cronin
Life is no straight and easy corridor along
which we travel free and unhampered,
but a maze of passages,
through which we must seek our way,
lost and confused, now and again
checked in a blind alley.
But always, if we have faith,
a door will open for us,
not perhaps one that we ourselves
would ever have thought of,
but one that will ultimately
prove good for us.
~A.J. Cronin
What most often weighs you down and brings you misery is the past, in the form of unnecessary attachments, repetitions of tired formulas, and the memory of old victories and defeats. You must consciously wage war against the past and force yourself to react to the present moment. Be ruthless on yourself; do not repeat the same tired methods. - pg 15
Let go of people, situations, memories, behaviors, places and things that are a part of your past. Allow them to be what they were and move forward to win your new victory.
Let go of people, situations, memories, behaviors, places and things that are a part of your past. Allow them to be what they were and move forward to win your new victory.
Iyanla Vanzant is one of my earliest spiritual teachers. I would devour her readings and receive a blessing each and every time. I ran across this gem while checking out her site...
http://www.innervisionsworldwide.com/Inner/Services/sevensteps.html
Wherever you are in your life it is important to remember that you cannot force, coerce and demand change.
Change is a process that unfolds when the individual mind comes into alignment and cooperation with the flow of life, the universe at large.
Change is a journey. You must engage change one-step at a time.
Change is not linear, meaning do this and that will happen.
Change is uncertain and uncertainty gives rise to fear. When fear is present we must have a vision and engage in strategic planning.
Change requires that we work from the top down (from the mind to the heart) and from the bottom up (from the experience to the cause of the experience) at the same time.
Change often creates problems in our environment. Problems are our friends! Without problems we cannot learn. Without problems we have no idea of the depth of the change that is required of us. And, whenever there is change going on in your life, you need help and support.
http://www.innervisionsworldwide.com/Inner/Services/sevensteps.html
Wherever you are in your life it is important to remember that you cannot force, coerce and demand change.
Change is a process that unfolds when the individual mind comes into alignment and cooperation with the flow of life, the universe at large.
Change is a journey. You must engage change one-step at a time.
Change is not linear, meaning do this and that will happen.
Change is uncertain and uncertainty gives rise to fear. When fear is present we must have a vision and engage in strategic planning.
Change requires that we work from the top down (from the mind to the heart) and from the bottom up (from the experience to the cause of the experience) at the same time.
Change often creates problems in our environment. Problems are our friends! Without problems we cannot learn. Without problems we have no idea of the depth of the change that is required of us. And, whenever there is change going on in your life, you need help and support.
