Not really anyway. You really don't get Personal Time Off when you are a mother. Even if you're children aren't with you you're thinking about them. Thinking about what they need, wondering if they're ok, planning lunch/dinner. Your mind/spirit/body is always working....so even if you don't feel like doing your mommy duties you have too. And you have to find some positive energy in you to do it with some graciousness and less crabbiness. So isn't it pretty much the same thing in a relationship? You don't really get personal time off. That person is always on your mind, you are concerned about their needs and thinking of ways to be happy and add to their happiness. Even when you don't feel like it. I believe the way to be a successful parent and partner is to remember that. And more importantly, to remember that with your partner. We sometimes lose the politeness and "obligatory niceties" with our mates because they are the ones we get naked with..so they can handle our unpleasant mood and indifferent behavior. But just as a relationship with your child/children can be hurt if you are constantly impatient, don't show love and act like they are generally a pain in your ***...your relationship with your partner can be hurt in the same way. It takes a lot of patience and prayer but we have to push ourselves to be better parents and better partners. And of course...take some time "to yourself by yourself" to rejuvenate your spirit..that is your personal time...and then return to your warm family circle to be the woman that you were called to be.
Showing posts with label family tradition. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family tradition. Show all posts
I am in love with life.
Here are some things that produce squeals of delight..in no particular order..
1. Key Lime Pie (so very good)
2. Picnics
3. Sun dresses
4. Sunday evenings
5. Good music
6. Red velvet cupcakes (decadent)
7. Forgiveness
8. Yums big smile
9. Yums big hugs
10. Yums forever kisses
11. Yums telling me I look pretty
12. Chocolate babies
13. My loves touch (HIM)
14. My father's eyes
15. My mother's smile
16. My sister's laugh (laughs so hard she gets an asthma attack)
17. My sister's dimples
18. Yellow nail polish
19. Really highWedges
20. The SUN!
21. Everything about the beach
22. Bikinis
23. Orange, Red and all Earth Colors
24. The color White
25. Experiences
26. Weddings
27. Butterflies
28. Committment
29. Character
30. My so very beautiful girlfriends
31. "Do Over's"
32. A Good Book and a Rainy Day
33. My Love (HIM *sigh* so in love)
34. My sister's crazy home
35. My brother's oh so New York style!
36. Mascara
37. Opportunities
38. Writing
39. Really hot places
40. Really cold places
41. Traveling to these places
42. Days off
43. Sunflowers
44. Lavender
45. Coffee (*sigh* my addiction)
46. Starbucks
47. My BFF's smell (the same since we were 16)
48. Wine
49. Learning new things
50. Chess
51. Character.
That's it for now...but I really am grateful for life....
Thank you Creator for it....
Here are some things that produce squeals of delight..in no particular order..
1. Key Lime Pie (so very good)
2. Picnics
3. Sun dresses
4. Sunday evenings
5. Good music
6. Red velvet cupcakes (decadent)
7. Forgiveness
8. Yums big smile
9. Yums big hugs
10. Yums forever kisses
11. Yums telling me I look pretty
12. Chocolate babies
13. My loves touch (HIM)
14. My father's eyes
15. My mother's smile
16. My sister's laugh (laughs so hard she gets an asthma attack)
17. My sister's dimples
18. Yellow nail polish
19. Really highWedges
20. The SUN!
21. Everything about the beach
22. Bikinis
23. Orange, Red and all Earth Colors
24. The color White
25. Experiences
26. Weddings
27. Butterflies
28. Committment
29. Character
30. My so very beautiful girlfriends
31. "Do Over's"
32. A Good Book and a Rainy Day
33. My Love (HIM *sigh* so in love)
34. My sister's crazy home
35. My brother's oh so New York style!
36. Mascara
37. Opportunities
38. Writing
39. Really hot places
40. Really cold places
41. Traveling to these places
42. Days off
43. Sunflowers
44. Lavender
45. Coffee (*sigh* my addiction)
46. Starbucks
47. My BFF's smell (the same since we were 16)
48. Wine
49. Learning new things
50. Chess
51. Character.
That's it for now...but I really am grateful for life....
Thank you Creator for it....
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My sister has four delicious children and three of them are the prettiest brown girls you'll ever see. I like to think of them as beautiful brown flowers. That's what they look like to me. Of these three brown flowers the middle one is Noni. Noni is petite with a mind of her own and the biggest smile that can hold on the face of a three year old. Normally when I see my sister I give all the kids hugs and kisses and talk to them but I eventually gravitate to the turkey of a baby, Chaeli. She is just delicious! Noni is usually somewhere around playing and doing her own thing. The last time I saw them Noni said, "I have a new dollhouse. You want to see it? Come on!." So of course I went and played with her and we had some quality one on one time. It occurred to me that that was her way of claiming some time with me. She's not quite the baby anymore and not the big sister either so she's in that special position of a middle child. I enjoyed playing with her and it reminded me how much I need to pay attention. Pay attention to all of my nieces and nephew. Pay attention to my son. Pay attention to my sisters. Pay attention to my parents. Pay attention to my friends. Just really stop and pay attention. Noni got my attention through a simple request. Sometimes it's not until something tragic happens that we begin to pay attention and then it can be too late. I'm going to pay attention today to the people that matter...
Family traditions, beliefs and values shape us as children. As adults we are expected to follow these same beliefs even if they differ from our own individually. Parents teach children their interpretation of right and wrong. This can be based on the Bible, Quran or some other religious belief. Children grow up into adults who develop their own set of beliefs and ways of viewing the world. Sometimes it doesn't match up to what they were taught and there is a distinct disconnect. The parents may see this as an affront to their parenting skills. How in the world could this child that I molded become someone so different. In reality, our core (as developed by the beliefs instilled as children) never dies. The external is what looks different. The character is still there but maybe the religious ideation is different or the sexual orientation. It's important to live your life freely and break free from "who your family wants you to be" and be "who you really are." Life is lived much fuller and sweeter if you do.
