I truly believe that our thoughts are the catalyst for our reality. What we think, we become and what is real in our heads will manifest in our lives. As a newlywed I am learning the importance of caring for my thoughts and being mindful of the affect it can have on my marriage. I realized if I stopped in the moment of my thought, especially if it were a negative one, and asked myself the following questions then I could avert some funky situations. Here are the questions I ask myself:

What is my spouse’s intention?

Is this a worse case scenario thought?

What are some other possibilities?

If you were in this position how would you handle it?

Does this need to be discussed? Does a boundary need to be established?

What is your intention?

Will you React in Fear or Respond in Love?

And then I remind myself that the journey is not in the destination but in all of the beautiful meandering paths it takes to get there. Enjoy it…..

Those all seem to be my methods of communication. I will speak around a topic to get to my point. And it's not that I'm long winded I just have a difficult time being straightforward. It makes me wonder how does one recreate their method or style of communication; or is it necessary to do so? It takes all types to communicate in our little universe. We all speak a different language and have different ways of saying the same things. A part of our individual growth process is evaluation...what works for me...what areas can I improve...what habits do I need to let go of. Doing this self inventory will keep you grounded and help you continually reach for and strive for excellence. I am not a straight shooter. That is difficult for me. But I can see the benefit in being more direct. I know this and I can work at it to develop into the complete woman that I yearn to be.