Isn't that an interesting saying? "I'm just keeping it real." We all know women who are known for keeping it real. I can think of a few that stand out. For example, NeNe or Sheree from the Real Housewives of Atlanta are famous for knowing how to keep it real. What does that even mean? Are you keeping it real because you know how to be direct? Are you keeping it real because you tell it like it is? Are you real because "this is just how you are and folks who don't like it can leave you alone?" So when you don't fit into one of those categories does that mean you don't keep it real?
I challenge you to explore this saying and what it means...
Keeping it real also involves being real about yourself. Not just about others but you...(look at that finger pointing towards you). It can mean being honest about who you really are and what your character defects are. Being able not just to tell someone how it is and how it should be but also being able to say..i'm selfish..i'm greedy..i lie too...i'm insecure. Be direct to yourself about yourself. Keep it real with yourself about who you are. And if keeping it real means telling it like it is and expecting that your friends/family/mate should be honest then you have to be that. Keep it real by telling your spouse you cheated on them; you've had inappropriate conversations or nights out. Keep it real with your friends that sometimes you don't answer the phone because you didn't want to talk to them. After all...it's keeping it real..right?
Let's try to be less arrogant about how real we keep it. We tend to do this especially in our relationships. We wear our badge of honor. I keep it real. I'm always honest. Why can't you? But in that statement you are not really being honest. Be still for a moment and think. Turn off the cell phone, turn off the t.v. and get into a meditative place. Think about the things that you may not have exposed..now think about how real you've really been.
This is not to pass judgment on those who relish in their realness. It's for us to examine what we expect from others and our capacity or willingness to meet those expectations ourselves.
check this hilarious example of how keeping it real can go wrong!
http://www.dumpalink.com/videos/Comedy-When-Keeping-it-Real-goes-Wrong-bcb2.html
I challenge you to explore this saying and what it means...
Keeping it real also involves being real about yourself. Not just about others but you...(look at that finger pointing towards you). It can mean being honest about who you really are and what your character defects are. Being able not just to tell someone how it is and how it should be but also being able to say..i'm selfish..i'm greedy..i lie too...i'm insecure. Be direct to yourself about yourself. Keep it real with yourself about who you are. And if keeping it real means telling it like it is and expecting that your friends/family/mate should be honest then you have to be that. Keep it real by telling your spouse you cheated on them; you've had inappropriate conversations or nights out. Keep it real with your friends that sometimes you don't answer the phone because you didn't want to talk to them. After all...it's keeping it real..right?
Let's try to be less arrogant about how real we keep it. We tend to do this especially in our relationships. We wear our badge of honor. I keep it real. I'm always honest. Why can't you? But in that statement you are not really being honest. Be still for a moment and think. Turn off the cell phone, turn off the t.v. and get into a meditative place. Think about the things that you may not have exposed..now think about how real you've really been.
This is not to pass judgment on those who relish in their realness. It's for us to examine what we expect from others and our capacity or willingness to meet those expectations ourselves.
check this hilarious example of how keeping it real can go wrong!
http://www.dumpalink.com/videos/Comedy-When-Keeping-it-Real-goes-Wrong-bcb2.html
