Or should I say, are relationships our projects? And do we need it to be a project in order for it to be more exciting, exhilirating, alive? What about when a relationship fits like a puzzle. The pieces just fit together. Does that make it less thrilling? I want my love, my relationship to be like a puzzle that fits well. If it's a project, I am constantly working on changing or fitting or making something work. I don't want a relationship that I have to make work, like putting a square peg in a round circle. I want one that fits. This doesn't mean I don't believe in the hard work required to maintain a successful relationship. I welcome the challenges and the elbow grease that I'll need. What I don't want to do is believe that the "more I have to work on this" the more it means we're supposed to be together. There is security as well as excitement involved in a "good fit." It means that despite whatever may come our way we can succeed together. Our energy is focused on the solutions instead of the project....just my point of view...