Having spent an entire summer with children almost every single day has given me a much more profound appreciation for patience, time off, and peace. Of course with children come a dozen questions, one of the more popular being...are we there yet? This question may be asked as we are driving out of the driveway...going onto the highway..just up the street...it doesn't matter; the question will get asked....where are we going..and are we there yet? Just like me..just like us in relationships. Are we there yet? Where are we going? Have we arrived? The complex joy of a car ride is the journey...the destination is great but it's the experience of getting there. As in a relationship it's the journey that is so exquisite..it's the memories that are formed and embedded in the safest part of your being. It's the time together and the kisses for no reason. It's the connection and the delight in being with your reflection that makes it all worth it. At times we get insane wanting to know just when exactly we will get to our destination in the relationship. Maybe where you are is your destination. Maybe the next step of....living together...getting married...having children..is the destination. The journey will reveal what your destination is. When you are driving to the store you know where you're going and you head in that direction...sometimes accidents or traffic causes your trip to go slower or completely derails it but you figure out a different route or head to a different store. So when you are loved and being loved you hope to have the same destination in mind. Be sure that you both do. Otherwise you may be headed to the altar..and your mate is not. You may have to try a different way of doing things/looking at things or you may simply have to go in a completely different direction with a completely different person. You will get to your destination but as you do enjoy the journey.....