When you are wallowing in feelings of doubt and unhappiness, insecurity and fatigue you tend to host a pity party. You may invite others to this party and vent for 30 mins or more your feelings of doubt, unhappiness, insecurity and fatigue. When you are alone in this destructive pity party you tend to drink wine, mope, brood, smoke cigs, sigh, shop, indulge in negative self talk (respond to the voices in your head) and overall tell yourself that you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT TO FEEL THE WAY YOU DO. After all, there is no other way to feel when you feel doubt, unhappiness, insecurity and fatigue. So on and on you go with your unsuspecting victim/listening ear about how awful such and such is..and how wrong you've been done...and just how TIRED you are. Ooo...just writing this is making me feel "over it." Allow yourself to feel what you feel...for a moment..but then GET OVER IT. Get over how you feel at the moment and either do something about it or make the best of it.......or drink some wine.